Loss of queen brings first encounter with death for some children
LONDON (Reuters) – The death of Queen Elizabeth and the closure of schools on the day of her funeral have meant many teachers and families have had to talk about death for the first time with young children.
Children’s charities and bereavement groups have offered advice about how to have such a conversation, answer questions, and decide whether to watch her funeral together.
The queen was all the more familiar to school children because just three months ago they celebrated her Platinum Jubilee with parties and performances, or by dressing up to represent every decade of her reign. Every primary school child received a special book for the occasion.
She also appeared as a character in children’s fiction and television from Roald Dahl’s “The BFG” to “Peppa Pig”.
“The death of a prominent figure can significantly affect children, as well as adults. This could be their first experience of death and they don’t really understand it or maybe they have been bereaved and this brings up those difficult feelings again,” said the Winston’s Wish charity for bereaved children.
It advised using clear, age-appropriate language, explaining what death means, and giving children reassurance.
“(Children) may or may not have attended a funeral before, but could be asking you about watching the queen’s funeral. It could be a good opportunity to introduce the concept of funerals to a child,” the charity said.
If children do watch the funeral it suggests preparing them in advance for what they will see, talking about emotions and being mindful of the child’s reactions and needs.
Charity Save the Children also suggested in a blog: “Create activities that help them process how they’re feeling. This could be drawing a picture of the queen, writing a story about her life, or imagining the adventures she might have been on.”
Messages and drawings from children feature prominently in the floral tributes left outside royal palaces and children have been queuing to see the queen lie in state.
“Dear Queen Elizabeth, you have been such a loyal queen to us all. Say hello to my nannie in heaven. It would mean the world to me,” wrote one nine-year-old girl on a drawing of the queen with a corgi.
“Thank you for being a lovely queen. I wish you were still with us,” wrote a boy called George on a note with a heart.
(Reporting by Alexandra Hudson; Editing by Alison Williams)